Friday, January 30, 2015

My Connections to Play

Play builds the kind of free-and-easy, try-it-out,
do-it-yourself character that our future needs. - James L. Hymes, Jr.
Play is the highest form of research. – Albert Einstein.

I have been thinking about my own childhood. I think Hymes’ quote would describe my childhood the best. When my father would not be available when he was working at his factory job, my three sisters and I would always be engaged in totally free play. We played with neighborhood kids, or go over friends’ houses in the neighborhood. We rode bikes to visit my father at work and grandparents and to the library to get books. We played hide-n-seek in cornfields. We played pretend office. We played cards in the winter. With neighborhood kids, we played Red Rover, Red Rover. We had bike races, and that’s when I would have skinned knees. We went to the local lake or to the local swimming club.

One of my sisters is the most adventuresome. She’s always – even to this day – thinking of ways to have fun. She would create games to play. On long road trips, she would make up hysterical Seussian stories – stories I told my own children!

My father would play sports with us, never mind we were all four girls. He taught us how to throw footballs, hit balls, and, most importantly, sportsmanship. He would not allow us to show poor sportsmanship. He never lectured at us but showed us how to be good sports.

I don’t like to compare my childhood with my children’s because it is really sad to think about what our children today are missing. It is difficult for me to qualitatively evaluate the importance of play from my childhood. Frankly, I’d rather be reading than playing, and we played because that’s what we did during the late 50s.

Our play was not as supervised except at the lake or at the pool where we had lifeguards. Our parents would frequently drop us off there and return a couple of hours later. In the summer, we would also attend afternoon movie matinees all by ourselves while our parents went shopping.

I would bring my children to the park and sit back and read a book. My children would go down to the school playground down the street, but they did not do that often because there would not be anyone else. We would need to set up playdates for my children to have someone to play with. Everything was structured except in our own home.

I do think our people today is yearning for a better sense of community and trying to set up more community-based activities.

Albert Einstein’s quote sums up all the reasons for the importance of play.

Toys that I had and which I also bought for my children:

I checkedwho James L. Hymes was. He was a national authority on early education who was a member of the National Planning Committee for Head Start during President Lyndon B. Johnson’s tenure. Check out his storied professional life in his obituary in the New York Times.

Saxon, Wolfgang. (March30, 1998) James L. Hymes, Jr., 84, author and specialist on child-rearing. The New York Times. Retrieved January 2015 from:

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Relationships Reflections

The relationships that keep me going are family and close friends.

                                                         (I am on the left.)
My sisters: I have three sisters, and between the four of us, there is a five-year difference. So while growing up, we were really close, and today, we still are. Each sister has different traits, and I love each one of them for different reasons. We try and have managed to successfully get together every year, especially at family weddings. I feel blessed to have them as a big part of my life.

                           (my family last June during our trip to Egypt)
My husband and children: my husband and now my grown children have become my sounding boards. Whenever I struggle about an issue, and talk it out with my husband, he would have astonishing suggestions for how to remedy the issues. My children had always been my anchor, and now that they are young adults, I love talking with them because they keep me young and humble. I feel very fortunate I can still keep in touch -- through technology -- with my son who lives in China. They all have wonderful sense of humors, an important trait when stuff become too serious.

My political friends: I have always been political and love talking about issues and ideas. It takes very special people to love me for my political soapbox that I am always standing on. We share same values and outlooks and are working really hard on some common political issues.

Now, at the end of the day, these two dogs are my raison d’etre for my life. (don’t worry, my husband feel the same way about those two dogs.)

Maintaining relationships with even my sisters and friends is extremely challenging. I have a full-time job and taking classes. That leaves me little time to maintain relationships, and I worry about that frequently. I get away with that a little because I am their "little baby sister."