A mini-narrative about my childhood: I was born in 1955, and
my mother stayed at home like most of the mothers from that time. Preschool was
unheard of in my small hometown, La Porte, Indiana, although I know my oldest
sister did attend a program at the local YMCA. And, so the people who nurtured
and cared about me as a child were all family.
My father, Eugene John Hatrak
He had four daughters when it is common knowledge a father
often wants at least one son. My father taught us sports and played with us
whenever he was home from his factory job. He allowed me to help him do errands
around the house. He was utterly patient with me when I wanted to help him. He
explained stuff to me. He was so loving and had a great sense of humor. My
father was loyal to a fault to Detroit Lions football team although the team
was a terrible team. He told me, “I support Detroit Lions because they are
underdogs.” That in itself speaks volumes about my father whom I love dearly
and who still has influence over how I live my life today by being involved in
community activism for the underprivileged Deaf children.
My grandma, Clarice Lorraine Herran (camera shy)
Because I am Deaf, I did not get to play much with
neighborhood children who did not learn American Sign Language. When my mother
or each of my three sisters were too busy for me who wanted to do something, I
would then bike over to my grandmother’s house, unannounced. She was ALWAYS
happy to see me and willing to stop whatever she was doing to be with me. We
talked a lot, and talked about stuff.
Best part was when my father finished work, he would check
to see if my bike was in Grandma’s front yard. If it were, he would stop by and
pick me up. Seems insignificant a moment, but I remember those moments vividly.
Linda, Daphne, me, Kay |
My Three Sisters:
Because of my enmeshed family, my three sisters are
important in my childhood and still influence me in more than one way today.
Daphne: I learned how to cross cultures through my sister
who is a hearing child of Deaf adults (CODA). I learned to dance from her. She would occasionally allow me to tag along with her!
Linda: she loved reading and telling stories, mostly to me.
She also loved television although she couldn’t understand anything without
captions that started in 1988. Never mind that, she used her imagination when
telling me what the movie she was watching on TV was all about. On long and boring car trips, she would create oh so imaginative stories! She led me on
many adventures as only the youngest sister would be game to.
Kay: we shared a double bed in an extremely small room. That
would require a lot of love for her as an older sister to bear with a younger
sister! She's always there for me when disaster struck me more than once!
I really enjoyed reading your post. I related to you in so many ways. I too am a mother of four daughters and a stay-at-home mom. I pray my daughters are as close as you and your sisters as they get older…best friends even. My husband relates to your dad. Our last two daughters were attempts for a boy. Obviously, our forecast called for all girls. We love every minute of it and clearly there aren't any dull moments. I really enjoyed connecting with your post and your childhood. Awesome memories.
ReplyDeleteAah yes Marla lol, I see now where your comment is stemming from. We both share that special sibling bond that not many people can associate with. As well have the pleasure of grandmother sharing stories. I had so many of my childhood friends who referred to my grandmother as though she was theirs too. She was the grandmother for the neighbourhood. Whenever a parent couldn't find their child they knew to come and look for them at Nana's house.
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