tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074375120439328789.post1448818941845142765..comments2021-05-01T03:26:40.743-07:00Comments on Marla's Musings: Conflict ManagementMarla Hatrak, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/10249074406062530539noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074375120439328789.post-48584136021076302702015-10-04T06:49:41.553-07:002015-10-04T06:49:41.553-07:00Thank for sharing this experience Marla, this must...Thank for sharing this experience Marla, this must have been an extremely frustrating process for you and your family but how encouraging to read that your entire family worked together on the issues to find a resolution that worked (your husband helped coach you, you coached your son, and ultimately your knowledge and persistencey about the issue coached the school). I hope this will make the process more positive for future families at this school with deaf considerations for their education. <br /><br />You also made an excellent point of nonviolent communication being a positive theory for some conflicts, but it does not apply to all. Sometimes, like this instance, legal or political implications hold power within debates to implement change. <br /><br />Despite our strategies for communication, we must do the research and have the background knowledge to bring to the conversation or debate or else we are walking towards a resolution with a blindfold on. <br /><br />You are a remarkable parent and leader for early childhood professionals!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074375120439328789.post-88190763855785140732015-10-03T19:14:30.653-07:002015-10-03T19:14:30.653-07:00Hi Marla,
I enjoy your honesty when reading your ...Hi Marla,<br /><br />I enjoy your honesty when reading your post this week. You are fortunate to have your husband in this scenario to aid you with the approaches that you should take. He gave you advice that was factual and not one sided. I believe that it is easier to just get angry versus sticking to the facts of the case. I wonder if the same rules still apply at this time. You were, in my opinion, a pioneer to your school district by advocating for your son and future students. I agree that the NVC and 3 R's are hard to identify with in all scenarios. I feel like it has to do with the depth of the conflict. When I am arguing with my family I find that we get so upset that we are trying to say harmful things to each other. Although I know it is wrong, it is easier to be angry than it is to forgive and forget. I think I grew up believing that being too forgiving is a sign of weakness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074375120439328789.post-5639376572949112832015-10-03T11:49:14.657-07:002015-10-03T11:49:14.657-07:00Marla
You make a valid point about the ability of...Marla <br />You make a valid point about the ability of the NVC or the 3 R's. As much as we want to institute the qualities of non-violent and conflict resolution the other party may not want to continue on this route. You husband gave you excellent advise to stay with the facts. Even with the conflict I chose; even though I put myself in his shoes there are procedures to follow and I could not give him permission to just show up on Saturday and leave the staff over ratio. Our center on the weekend has a skeleton staff. There are only six people scheduled to work a weekend versus the forty we have during the week. I agree their principles but to adhering to them in some situations would be challenging. Get post! ck Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483382112987045217noreply@blogger.com